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Telling your family can be dreadful. Some people have such a difficult time that they actually continue to prepare for work and leave the house every day as if going to work. Don't fall into this trap. Facing your spouses' anger, fear, anxiety, disappointment or whatever the feelings might be is the best thing you can do for yourself.

Whatever you do, don't do it by phone. Wait until you get home to break the news. If your spouse breaks down and needs a hug, you won't be there to do that.

If your spouse or partner happens to be in a public place when you call it could be devastating for many reasons. He or she could be in a situation where breaking down could be embarrassing or if driving could risk an accident. Talking in the privacy of your home is better for both of you.

Just as you maybe in shock your spouse may have the same reaction. Whatever the reaction might be assure your spouse that the family will be OK.

If there was tension in the marriage or relationship before the layoff, the impacts of the job loss could increase the tension. You have to remember the loss of a job is not just stressful for you, but all who were depending on your income.

Even harder than telling your partner or spouse will be telling your kids, if you have them. How you break the news will depend of their age and ability to understand. The most important thing they will want to know is that everything will be OK. Letting them know you will be around the house more may or may not be good news. For small children they will be excited to be able to spend more time with you. For teens, they may hate the fact and be concerned they may lose some of their freedom.

Whatever the decisions you make as you work through the loss, keep your kids in the loop as best you can.